Why do guys think that all girls have a bit of lesbian in them?
Us girls we are so magical, soft skin, red lips, so kissable, hard to resist, so touchable, too good to deny it! - Katy Perry, "I Kissed a Girl"
Why do guys think that all girls have a bit of lesbian in them?
I think the easy answer is that most of us do!
Personally, I believe that sexual attraction is fluid and often circumstantial, and that most people - heterosexual or homosexual - are a little bit bisexual, even if their actual partners have only been of one sex or the other. I've often joked that I'm straight, but would do Angelina Jolie if she asked me (ha!) and know a lot of other outwardly straight girls who have similar "girlcrushes."
It's no secret that most straight girls find women to be physically more beautiful than men, even if we're not actually sexually attracted to other women. This seems to give some poor guys a complex, if the quantity of penile enhancement spam that turns up in my email is any basis to judge. Sorry guys, but you're just kind of silly-looking down there and no amount of drugs is gonna fix that!
Lucky for you, most of us love you anyway! :)
Unfortunately for the 99.9% of straight men with a lesbian fetish, most straight girls take an attitude to the matter best articulated by Michael Novotny, a fictional gay man from the Showtime series Queer as Folk: "For a moment, I wished that I, too, could be a lesbian. Then I remembered I'd have to eat pussy, so I said forget it."
Fortunately for the same 99.9%, that still leaves the real lesbians and bisexuals (though most of these are not interested in "performing" for the benefit of straight men), the bicurious, and the straight girls willing to pretend to be bicurious in order to get male attention.
And like I said, I think more people than not are bicurious, if not actually bisexual, even if many would never admit it.
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Why do girls like guys with a little bit of gay in them?
Notice I said more "people" than not are bisexual, and not just more "girls."
Yes, I think most guys are bisexual, too, even if they're usually much less willing to admit it. Ironically, I think some guys are missing out on a real opportunity by suppressing this side of themselves.
Everybody knows that straight guys have a lesbian fetish, but it's much less commonly admitted that straight girls have a gay fetish. It works on exactly the same principle as the lesbian fetish: one person I'm attracted to kissing another person is hot, two people I'm attracted to kissing each other is hotter!
There is a huge community of women who read, write, and watch gay erotica, often in the form of fanfiction. It's called "slash."
You see the same effect with the popularity of slightly androgynous, feminized men among many women, especially teen girls, who may feel safer in the new and often mine-filled territory of love and sex with someone "more like me." Think River Phoenix, Titanic-era Leonardo DiCaprio, or Zac Efron. The music scene has had popular bands who dress and sometimes act "gay" onstage for decades, and again, many of these bands are most popular with girls and women.
Many straight girls outgrow this stage. Others don't. And few outgrow an appreciation for pretty men shoving their tongues down each others' throats. That one's hardwired in the eyes!